Therefore, they tend to disrespect and put others down. At the same time, they want admiration and respect from others. Doing something extraordinary that no one else could do gives a tremendous boost to your self-worth.
You have some weak points too, and you know it. I could go on and on giving reasons. The point is: you hardly have a reason to be arrogant and think others are unworthy even if you did something remarkable.
Just as doing something remarkable may lead to arrogance, so can not doing anything remarkable. What is he so arrogant about? If someone has low self-worth, instead of building their self-worth the right way through achievements, a far easier route is to appear arrogant. Hence, they wonder where your arrogance is coming from. But it can work on strangers who know next to nothing about you. Hence, arrogance can be a conscious or unconscious strategy of people who feel unworthy to impress others, especially strangers.
You may behave arrogantly to hide your insecurity, inferiority , and a lack of confidence. Arrogance, in this case, helps you to kind of reject others before they can reject you. A pre-emptive strike. Even if they reject you later, you can say that you never really cared about their acceptance. You can say you never really thought much of them because you had already rejected them.
But if they're enraged, then they may see you as questioning their "perfect little world. At some point or another, most people realize that the world doesn't revolve around them. Arrogant people counteract this by creating an atmosphere that revolves around them, and get angry if they're reminded of the real world. Ambiguity frightens arrogant people because it suggests imperfection, change, and lack of certainty realities we all must contend with as best we can.
As such, instead of accepting that the world behaves randomly and at times totally averse to one's preferences, the arrogant person seeks to control everything and everyone, which of course, is an impossible mission. Reality hurts when it intrudes; as such, an arrogant person is less likely than other people to self-reflect or analyze, thereby not seeing their own imperfections.
They may also give themselves undue credit for positive achievements instead of acknowledging the input of others or of circumstances. Learn the quality of their friendships.
Don't be nosy or gossipy, but if they are happy with someone one day and hateful with them the next, that's a sign of them having a lot of fair-weather friends.
That's a sign of arrogance since it is very hard to be a truly good friend to someone who's stuck on themselves. Prideful people have a strong need to look good, and being self-sufficient is an effective way to do that.
Since being a good friend to someone usually, means helping them, they often can't stand the thought of a good friendship. Ironically, arrogant people often can't understand why they don't have any reliable and supportive friends. See how they treat others who are unlike in some ways.
In other words, how do they treat those with different beliefs, cultural backgrounds and ways of seeing the world? If it's inherently negative, then they're either over-zealous, ignorant of other people, or what to avoid those that contradict their fantasy land that caters to them and them only.
Determine this based on their general personality and the people they're interacting with. Many times, prideful people have a serious "my-way's-the-only-way" attitude.
This is simply a protective mechanism for their false image or their fantasy land. Observe how their personality is like. Take note of how they act, talk, and use their social status. Do they have a general sense of "coolness"? Are they a chatterbox? Do they act like they own the place, or act like the "big dog"? Are they very keen on their self-image? Many arrogant people have a false charm that no one seems to see through. But the arrogant person is usually more than happy to show their cruel side to those that they don't like.
When they are cruel, their friends will usually ignore it or not do anything to stop it since they're afraid that they'll be treated badly by their "friend. Mention people you know that they don't like. This isn't meant to begin a conflict, but to gauge their rivalries, annoyances, and enmities.
If their condemnation seems to be reasonable, they probably aren't hubristic. If it's harsh, they are. For the most part, arrogant people see people that they don't like as threats to their perfect little world. The more they hate someone, the more dangerous that person is to their fantasy land. And in turn, the bigger the threat, the harsher the criticism.
Ask around to see what they've been saying about you. If they have been saying bad things about you, they may simply not like you.
If they're nice to your face, but talk bad about you behind your back like it's their favorite hobby, then they probably have a problem with pride. Arrogant people often subconsciously know that they don't have any good friends.
They compensate for this by creating the "impression" that they have a lot of friends - they have a "quantity, not quality" mentality. Then they simply insult their trophy friends when they aren't looking. Be compassionate. Don't be judgmental of arrogant people or you risk having as negative an outlook as they do. Arrogant people are often trying to hide certain vulnerabilities and fears.
Most of the time, the need for a strong and unquestionable self-image comes out of deeply rooted pain. Obviously, you also don't need to be taken in by their claims to be superior to you. Stay principled and detached. But you can reach out and see the genuine good in them and praise what is real, rather than perceived or forced, talent. Sometimes, having someone push through the brusqueness can free the arrogant person to be much truer to themselves, allowing them to stop shielding themselves so fiercely.
An enormous amount of vulnerability tends to hide behind arrogance. This leads to overcompensating so that the vulnerability is deeply suppressed. For example, if an arrogant person grew up poor but later becomes rich, he or she may be snobbish about everything they can now afford because they are covering up the fear of poverty from the past My fiance asked me to move in with him and now he always says hurtful things to me. Things like "Don't act like this is your house, you are a guest here.
What do I do? In all honesty, your fiance is a jerk and you don't deserve to be treated like that. In the end, your self-respect matters and regardless of who the hatred comes from, you should care for yourself.
If I were you, I would tell him his words are unacceptable. If you don't get an apology, break it off with him. Respect should be the most important aspect of a marriage, so it is not a good sign if he is already exhibiting a lack of it while you are still engaged.
Yes No. Not Helpful 16 Helpful Is it good to be in a relationship with a guy who thinks it is all about him or thinks it is all about looking good?
No, that's not a healthy relationship to be in. Relationships should not be so superficial or so one-sided. Best to put and end to this and hopefully eventually find a more caring person to be with. Not Helpful 10 Helpful A lot of times it boils down to insecurity. My friend constantly complains about her neighbor being a control freak, interfering, etc. Does this make any sense? It seems to be a case of either dual-arrogance or downright submissiveness on your friend's part.
Possible dual-arrogance: Whilst the neighbor lady is controlling, maybe curt and very outspoken, it seems your friend is slightly less outspoken but, nevertheless, is unwilling to yield in any way e.
Possible submissiveness: Maybe this neighbor has asserted herself to such a degree as to actually strike genuine fear into your friend. She may be trying to avoid any conflict. Not Helpful 3 Helpful The manner in which you've summed up your attitude demonstrates that you make a lot of noise, act disagreebly and go out of control whenever anyone might try to check your misbehavior. You might be arrogant, there isn't enough to go by to assess that, but you certainly like to create drama and use it to your advantage.
Perhaps assess how people act around you and how many real friends you actually have. It might help you to decide to act more maturely and with consideration for others. Not Helpful 8 Helpful Ignore his attitude, be nice to him, and do your job. Being dishonest out of embarrassment is also a sign of arrogance. You may find yourself feeling inferior in the moment, so you lie in order to foster a fake image for yourself. This all comes back to being arrogant.
You want to believe you are superior, so you have to do whatever is necessary to make that happen. Is the topic of conversation always centered around you? Without realizing it, you may have orchestrated it be this way. Take a good look at the friends you have. This is because you may be displaying arrogance that is not conducive to a strong relationship or friendship, and people will naturally drift away from you.
How you answer questions is a strong indicator that you are being arrogant. Still, if you believe that you have a significant problem with arrogance, consider seeking professional help on diminishing it in your life and promoting real happiness with your self-image. Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Counseling News , Happiness , Relationships.
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